I
discovered my first frenemy in high school.
How? Friends reported a classroom
debate where my family became a part of the classroom discussion. Classmates were discussing current social issues. Sadly one “friend”
supported how blacks were inferior… less intelligent… lazy…dirty…you know the stereotypes. At the time, in 1972, our family was one of seven African American families living in Hancock County, Indiana.
Gathered
in the bathroom at Greenfield Central High School, I listened to friends
tell me about the incident. I was
sad. They were brave. I had such a sense
of betrayal. Everything I thought about
this friend melted away.
At
home, I was in a safe place. As, I recounted the event to my parents, they
listened. They were not surprised. It
was one event in a lifetime of events where they had experienced similar
events. This was mild in comparison to others. “We warned you about ...”
That
was then… this is now…
There
is a vibe when we talk about someone in their absence. It lingers… it reveals
itself in gestures… in looks…It is so obvious…
Mature friendships are a treasure.
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