Musings ...

When I heard the news of A's death, so many emotions  gripped me. I sat in disbelief, sorrow, shock, and incredible sadness. Today, I continue to struggle with this sense of overwhelming grief.  

In his brief life, “A” was a son, brother, cousin, partner, loving father, trusted friend, employee, HBCU alumni, member of  NSBE and so much more.  I hope that his love ones will remember his life and not just his death. 

Yet, with suicide there are so many unanswered questions. Conversations that will never be shared. Milestone occasions  he will never attend. His incredible gifts and talents are now silent. I trust that God will  comfort his family  and give them sweet memories of his life. Sadly, many memories will be colored by the many what if’s… what could I have said or done. Sadly, the pain will linger.  Those who struggle with the loss, may find help with professional counseling. This is a time to seek help.

According to the Centers for Disease Control, in 2017, the national suicide rate rose 3.7 % the sharpest annual increase in nearly a decade. In our small city, our community is struggling with the epidemic of suicides.  Our community and schools are seeking to respond to the crisis. 

Instead of feeling hopeless, I will be intentional in reaching out and combining prayer with action. This is not the time to be uninvolved. If we know someone has experienced a devasting crisis… do not sit by idly… reach out. Be present. ask the difficult questions… seek professional help and encourage them to do the same. Be brave and have that uncomfortable conversation. 

Live a life of no regrets. Life can be messy. Show real love. Do something. 

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 800-273-8255